How to maintain small talk

On New Year's Eve, and on other festive events, a number of questions arise, related not only to outfits and cooking, but also to how to behave in a new company, how to maintain small talk, what are the best topics for conversation ...

New Year - this is both long-awaited fun, and the opportunity to meet and meet new interesting people, or maybe meet your love or earn a reputation that you could only dream of, and this will drastically change your life ...

What are the best topics for conversation?
We can talk about the weather for a very short time and it is too commonplace. To maintain normal small talk, you must be versed in cultural life - movies, exhibitions, concerts. But it so happens that you know little about many of these events. Perhaps you are passionate about your work, family, or your circle of interests does not always coincide with visiting theaters and exhibitions. This should not be feared, because we are all different, and it is impossible to embrace everything. Then a sincere interest in the success of your friends' children and their vacation plans will help you. And in no case start talking about some Masha or Dasha for the purpose of discussing, especially their appearance, outfits and personal life.

In any case, whether they support you or not in this conversation, the mood will be ruined for both you and the interlocutor. You should not start talking about work, illness, and having money. These are purely personal conversations, but not on a festive evening when friends got together to relax. Do not turn away with an arrogant look from the one who tried to communicate with you, but he is unpleasant to you. Have a few phrases, smile and walk away to another interlocutor. Do not curry favor with the interlocutor you like, do not “eat” him with your eyes. If you do not know your interlocutors, do not rush to enter into a conversation, listen to what they are talking about.

If you have been invited by your friends to your home or country house, and perhaps there will be new people for you, bring your signature cake with you.

When introduced to new acquaintances, try to smile genuinely and look the new acquaintance in the eye. If you find yourself in the company of people, where everyone is united by their favorite profession, do not try to portray interest in their achievements, especially if you do not have it (interest). Never try to keep them talking. It will look clumsy and maybe even silly. Better to wait for the conversation to go public. If your friends invited you, they will try to translate the conversation, which will be available to you. Rely on them.

Do we know how to keep the conversation going? A lot depends on it - sometimes a wrong or at the wrong time a word spoken can destroy both feelings and a career. There are many rules for conducting a conversation, but one of the most important is listening. There are people who can speak beautifully, but at the same time they do not know how to listen at all. These are most often avoided. A well-mannered person talks about himself as little as possible. After all, it is better to discuss your own worries and health with your family or close friends. And here, at the festive table, everyone came to relax and have fun.

You should not force others to listen to your poems or stories that you are going to publish, unless others ask them to tell you.

Do not seek to elevate yourself in someone else's eyes, especially at the expense of belittling others.

If you like jokes and anecdotes, try not to offend anyone among those present.

It is ugly to interrupt the interlocutor during a conversation, wait until he finishes his thought.And then, if you disagree, say something like these phrases: "let me tell you ...", "it seems that you are not quite correctly informed ...", "perhaps you are right, but I have a different opinion ...". Never say such phrases: "This is stupid", "This is nonsense", ".. I understand this topic better than you ...", etc.

Do not boast to those present about your erudition, talents, success, your property and your bank account.

And finally, remember - the rules of good manners cannot be simply learned and used only for a holiday, they cannot be put on yourself like a festive outfit, and then hidden in a closet. Your culture and politeness should always be with you.